If you are in my office. It is likely too late. Communicate.

One common thread I see in many divorce cases is a lack of communication between the parties as the marriage begins to crumble. I am not a relationship expert. I am not a marital therapist. I am a divorce lawyer. I am making an observation. Of course, marriages become dysfunctional for many reasons. Lack of communication leading to divorce is just one common factor that I see in my divorce practice.

Doing the hard things now often beats divorce court.

Become a better communicator with your spouse. If that means breaking out of your comfort zone, then do that. Many divorce clients can be too quick to point fingers at the other person instead of working on themselves or upping their communication skills. Never been a great communicator? Not your personal style? Think about changing your style. Try it. A simple uptick in communication may save your marriage. You can thank me later.

Wait. Why is a divorce lawyer trying to save marriages? Isn’t that counterintuitive?

Yes it is. But guess what? If everyone did a better job understanding their rights and responsibilities before they got married, and did a better job communicating with their spouse during the marriage, fewer people would suffer the effects of divorce. That means fewer divorce clients for the members of the family law bar. That is fine. We can find another specialty to practice within the law. As a group, divorce lawyers are very smart. We will adapt. Now go talk to your spouse. Now.

One more reason to try to make your marriage better before calling me.

For most litigants, the divorce process is very stressful. The divorce machine can eat away at your soul. It can be very expensive. Time-consuming. An emotional drain. Many people are shocked to learn that some divorce laws are not always “fair”. Many family courts are overworked. Outcomes are never guaranteed.

Thinking about filing for divorce? Thinking about getting married? Thinking about a prenup? I invite your inquiry. Call me at (610) 256 4843. Let’s talk.